
That little guy at the top is now nine and one-half years old. Whew--where did it go?
That big guy at the bottom--he is nine and fifty. Today, in fact.
Grampa Larry's birthday today brings him just one year shy of the big Six - Oh, so before he is so ancient that he can't read ye old blog here, I figured I ought to send out some birthday love over the internets in the form of a very short list--some things I love about my dad.
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+ Larry loves daughters. He only had girls and he had four of them. And there wasn't anything that his buddies with sons could do that he couldn't do with his girls. And time after time we came along for the fun just to prove it.
+ A particular river rafting trip comes to mind--eh, Heather? Men and their sons totaling at least thirty rafters, then me and Heather. A few years older and I might've found that much more appealing--and my dad wouldn't have invited me. ;)
+ Or hiking up American Fork canyon and being left on the edge of a cliff (top
of a trail) while dad abandoned us (went to check things out) for hours
and hours (two minutes) until Heather and I started calling for him
(screaming at the top of our lungs because he'd probably been eaten by a bear) and he had to come flying over the edge to make sure that we'd not been eaten by a bear. (We were still, very much girls. Still are.)
+ Or making sure that I didn't throw like a girl before ward girl's softball season. And it must've worked, Craig has always appreciated that I throw like a boy. Honest.
+ Or pulling me out of school to go skiing. Even if I was a horrible skier, with more fear than balance.
+ Or year after year, manning the fund-raising refreshment stand at the UVU rodeos. Except it was UTC, then UVCC, then UVSC, then UVU--I ran the refreshment stand through most of those initials. Now, rodeos always hold a special nostalgia for me.
+ Did I mention that he was a professor for years and years? He was. He could have done many other things with his career, but teaching was just his thing. His gig. He was good at it and he loved it. So did I.
+ And speaking of UVU, I loved going to his office when I was really little and sitting at his desk, coloring and playing while he taught night classes. That must have been a big pain to take me or my sister with him and keep us occupied, but it was the best.The big school, the big office and all the guys (co-workers) that treated us like we were the little queens of the world.
+ Or watching Charlotte's Web on a big, new-fangled VHS TV in a big, empty classroom on a Saturday afternoon.
+ And later, when I attended UVU (right about the time it bacame UVSC) and every so often I'd drop by his office to see him, he'd bring me in, show me around and show me off to all the guys, like I was one of his greatest trophies. Because I was.
+ And just a few years ago, just before he retired, I dropped by to visit with my little boys in tow. He had a new office as an administrator and I'd never been to see it, but I knew he'd be busy and only meant to pop in for a few minutes. Over an hour later, after my boys and I had been shown off to pretty much everyone--each with comments about my great my father was or how they knew this or that about me or how proud my dad was of me--I left with tears in my eyes and a glow in my heart.
+ And, as luck would have it, on top of loving his daughters he also
loves grandsons. (He might love them more.) Of his nine grandchildren, seven are boys. His trophy case of offspring has more than tripled--he can get awful proud these days.


+ And he is an
awesome boy grampa. The kind that builds a Larry-land playground in his
backyard and another one in my backyard, takes boys four-wheeling and pinewood-derby car making and
fishing and camping and does just enough of the behind-your-mom's-back
stuff to make the boys think they're getting away with murder, but not
so much that mom actually needs to be concerned. You know--those things
boys are supposed to learn from their grampa.
+ He is a big kid at heart.
+ A big kid who loves Disneyland and ice cream cones, not necessarily in that order.
+ And he makes funny faces. Crazy Guggenheim was his standard and just recently my kids saw it for maybe the first time. They came home with their own attempts, telling me that grampa had this great face and this funny voice and I just HAD to see it. See it, children? I lived it.
+ And somewhere there is a video of my father running around the backyard, holding the camera a grass level and doing voice-overs for what he thought our dog, Sadie, might be thinking. Just thinking of that makes me giggle.
+ There wasn't much my father couldn't build. Be it a new garage or a pirate's sword, he can figure out how to get it done. Still true. I remember being super surprised to discover that not all dad's could simply build things.
+ Weekends were for work and for family. It was common to spend the day in timed cleanings throughout the house, before cashing in on promises of fun at the drive-in or the canyon.
+ Weekends still are for family. Grampa attends many a junior-league sports games on Saturday with Gramma.
+ Despite an athletic high school career, he is very non-competitve when it comes to his grandsons. He just loves to watch them play.
+ Unless it's Twister--then the man is ruthless.

+ Or traditional Thanksgiving Day Rubberband Gun Wars. Trust me--you do not want to oppose him in something like that, where the stakes are really high.
+ But outside of the important competitive things (you know, like Twister and rubberband guns) my dad is incredibly fair. And honest. And full of integrity. That has been very important to me.
+ He has very high standard of conduct and set the bar early for us girls in so many things.
+ And he is a good son. He has always been there to take great care of his mom and dad, whenever they needed him.
+ And he loves this lady right here. The blonde one on the right. Cheesehead in the back belongs to me.

+ Loving his wife is first and foremost on his priority list and we always knew that. He loves us girls right to pieces, but that lady--my momma and his wife--he loves her the best. Crazy, passionate, kiss-her-right-there-in-the-kitchen-for-all-too-see LOVES this woman.

Not like that, so much.

That's the stuff, right there. All the time. Right in front of the children and everything. These two are crazy about each other and they didn't care who knew about it.
+ And depsite twitching a little the thought of it, he wanted exactly that sort of crazy, adoring love for all of his girls.
+ Once upon a time I was engaged to marry someone else. When that someone else asked my dad for my hand, my dad asked him why he wanted to marry me. The answer was that he felt I had great potential. Dad didn't want to interfere, so it would be several months and a broken heart later before my father would tell me that story and let me know that "potential" wasn't enough. That I would find the right one and when I did the answer to that particular question would be that he loves me to the moon and back, period. And I found him and he does and dad was right.
+ And that, for me, has made all the difference.
+ His family is his greatest accomplishment and his sweetest joy. I had never seen that more obviously than on the day of his mother's funeral just a few years ago.
It was early in the morning and, as I was speaking at the funeral, I'd been totally unable to sleep and ended up on a couch in my Grandmother's living room tossing and turning. My father came into the room, and sat down by my side to pull on his shoes. "I'm going for a walk," he said. "Wanna come?" And even though I really needed to spend an hour putting my thoughts to paper before Jack woke up, I said yes and pulled on some shoes to join him.
We spent that morning walking several miles, along a trail through his small hometown to the cemetary we would visit that afternoon. And all the while he talked. And talked and talked. And I shook my head and laughed and wiped away tears. I have so many of those thoughts of his tucked deep into my heart--thoughts of his love for his mother, for his wife, for his children and grandchildren and for me. Thoughts of his gratitude for a good life and a lovely family. Thoughts of how he was a very, very rich man. That was easily the greatest walk I've ever taken.
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Thank you, Dad--those are some right fine memories you've given me. Let's make many, many more, okay?
And Happy Birthday, too! I love you right to pieces.
